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I am not an investor, but a startup founder. Please don't take it the wrong way, but I would have never hired a person who thinks the way you write. I am sure y

I am not an investor, but a startup founder. Please don't take it the wrong way, but I would have never hired a person who thinks the way you write. I am sure you are a great person, skilled and experienced technically, and all that stuff. But when you are trying to get a new business off the ground, you basically risk your whole life. If you surround yourself with people who don't share your beliefs and goals, who you can't rely on, who care about other things more than about building a successful business, you are totally doomed from the beginning. There is nothing wrong, by the way, with the way you treat such things. Most people on Earth are not entrepreneurs, so it's expected. The point was that if you think that way, you should never even think about joining a startup (at least not at the initial stage). Regarding the skills, the motivation is much more important (I believe, at least). Say, if you don't know a thing about software engineering, but you love the industry the product targets at, and you are willing to learn, I would be happy to hire you and reject all the experienced engineers from Google, Facebook and other fancy companies who don't give a damn about the product, regardless of how skilled they are.

cookiecaper 10y ago
I'm an entrepreneur too. I'm indicating that the philosophy you're sharing serves only the investors, and that's why they try to ingrain it into naive or inexperienced founders. There is a problem when you allow your work to consume everything. Things are out of balance. That's true no matter how small or big the company is. It's not healthy for the founders or the employees to behave that way. This isn't to say that one shouldn't spend a lot of time working on stuff or that strict insistence on a 40-hour week is always appropriate, but there is more to life than work, even when you're trying to get a startup off the ground! Some equilibrium must be maintained, for the sanity of all. Specifically, delaying important familial developments like marriage and children or spending so much time engrossed in work that you become negligent of your familial responsibilities is absolutely an unfair trade, no matter how rich you get from the startup lottery (and realistically, you'll probably get 0 rich, which makes neglecting permanent, irrevocable relationships like family even less intelligent). I understand that you disagree and would avoid hiring someone who is interested in work-life balance, and that's fine, but my belief is that this attitude is not good and you're not going to get good people with it. It artificially constrains your selection of talent to the naive and/or the desperate, neither of which make a good foundation for a company.
- csbubbles 10y ago
  There are some valid points in what you are saying. But they all depend very much on tons of personal things. E.g., on your relationship with your spouse and kids. I probably got lucky, and my wife understands what I am doing and why, and why I don't spend a lot of time with her. She just accepts it, and we've been together for 13 years already. Or, say, if you enjoy doing whatever you are doing more than anything else. I am not saying that all people should follow that. Again, my point was that there are people who try starting/running a business, who are in love with what they are doing, whom you may even call insane to a certain extent, and who expect to find (at least at early stages) people who completely share their goals, vision and beliefs. And who won't hire a person who thinks that there are things more important, regardless of whether it's their family or a weekend hiking. I've read while ago that founders of some startup (AirBnb?) had spent about half a year to hire their first employee, and the question they typically asked the candidates was "Would you take the job if you knew you would die in a year?", or something like that. So, I personally understand and share that approach completely. As you can see, at least I am not the only person who treat these things that way. And, again, I am not saying that it's for everyone, but people should keep in mind that it can totally be the case when they apply for a job at a startup. People are different. I agree that most of them feel about life same way you do - treating their families or some personal hobbies as higher priorities. But not all of them. Some people approach their lives differently.
kafkaesq 10y ago
If you surround yourself with people who ... care about other things more than about building a successful business I've worked with all kinds of laggards, attitude cases and/or bona fide sociopaths my time; most are difficult to spot up front. But show me someone who genuinely cares more about their employer's or their own business than their spouse and their children, and who hasn't done the only honorable thing to do once they've reached that point -- namely, to file for no-fault divorce and unambiguously hand over custody of said children to said spouse; along with a hefty trust fund for each kid -- then at least I'll know they'll be impossible to work for or with in any capacity, and inevitably a poison pill to any effective, sustainable organization. In other words -- you're bluffing. No one (who isn't single and without kids) genuinely believes that you shouldn't "care about other things more than about building a successful business". Everyone knows that it's a balancing act -- it's just a question of how you tune the parameters. But if you genuinely, literally believe that -- then do the world a favor, and put the following disclaimer on each and every job description you put out: "Please be advised that this position is not suitable for persons entrusted with the care of young children (or minors). And in any case, such persons will not be hired."
- csbubbles 10y ago
  I've been married since 2003, and my daughter is 9 years old. And I do care about my business more than about my family.
  - cookiecaper 10y ago
    This is horrifyingly sad. Please erase evidence of this before the HN edit deadline expires and seek therapy. They offer it online now: try http://talkspace.com http://talkspace.com. The impact you can have on the world through children is much bigger than the impact you can have through Yet-Another-Music-Startup. A typical child is going to influence generations. It will be hundreds of years before their significance fades, whether their influence is positive or negative. That is true for anyone who has kids. Be a positive influence. I've personally heard of maybe 3 music startups and I know the names of 0 music-related founders. Most of these companies will exist for a few years and then dissipate, and that's fine. They will serve a function for a limited time and make some users happier, and perhaps provide a good living for their investors, founders, and employees. Then no one will remember them, and that is as it should be. Please come back down to earth. While it's true that you won't become famous by raising good kids, the net effect is far superior for everyone than any corporate effort could be. Family support and encouragement at all levels (parents, spouses, siblings, children) is a pre-requisite, not a drain, that enables the world's visionaries to succeed. Successful relationships with a spouse and a child are (usually) maturing, perspective-broadening things that make people better workers, not worse ones. I'm sure your investors would be very put off if they found these comments, not to mention your wife and daughter should they ever stumble across it. Please do yourself and the innocent people in your family a favor and fix not only these posts, but the attitude that birthed them.

cookiecaper 10y ago

I'm an entrepreneur too. I'm indicating that the philosophy you're sharing serves only the investors, and that's why they try to ingrain it into naive or inexperienced founders. There is a problem when you allow your work to consume everything. Things are out of balance. That's true no matter how small or big the company is. It's not healthy for the founders or the employees to behave that way. This isn't to say that one shouldn't spend a lot of time working on stuff or that strict insistence on a 40-hour week is always appropriate, but there is more to life than work, even when you're trying to get a startup off the ground! Some equilibrium must be maintained, for the sanity of all. Specifically, delaying important familial developments like marriage and children or spending so much time engrossed in work that you become negligent of your familial responsibilities is absolutely an unfair trade, no matter how rich you get from the startup lottery (and realistically, you'll probably get 0 rich, which makes neglecting permanent, irrevocable relationships like family even less intelligent). I understand that you disagree and would avoid hiring someone who is interested in work-life balance, and that's fine, but my belief is that this attitude is not good and you're not going to get good people with it. It artificially constrains your selection of talent to the naive and/or the desperate, neither of which make a good foundation for a company.

csbubbles 10y ago
There are some valid points in what you are saying. But they all depend very much on tons of personal things. E.g., on your relationship with your spouse and kids. I probably got lucky, and my wife understands what I am doing and why, and why I don't spend a lot of time with her. She just accepts it, and we've been together for 13 years already. Or, say, if you enjoy doing whatever you are doing more than anything else. I am not saying that all people should follow that. Again, my point was that there are people who try starting/running a business, who are in love with what they are doing, whom you may even call insane to a certain extent, and who expect to find (at least at early stages) people who completely share their goals, vision and beliefs. And who won't hire a person who thinks that there are things more important, regardless of whether it's their family or a weekend hiking. I've read while ago that founders of some startup (AirBnb?) had spent about half a year to hire their first employee, and the question they typically asked the candidates was "Would you take the job if you knew you would die in a year?", or something like that. So, I personally understand and share that approach completely. As you can see, at least I am not the only person who treat these things that way. And, again, I am not saying that it's for everyone, but people should keep in mind that it can totally be the case when they apply for a job at a startup. People are different. I agree that most of them feel about life same way you do - treating their families or some personal hobbies as higher priorities. But not all of them. Some people approach their lives differently.

kafkaesq 10y ago

If you surround yourself with people who ... care about other things more than about building a successful business I've worked with all kinds of laggards, attitude cases and/or bona fide sociopaths my time; most are difficult to spot up front. But show me someone who genuinely cares more about their employer's or their own business than their spouse and their children, and who hasn't done the only honorable thing to do once they've reached that point -- namely, to file for no-fault divorce and unambiguously hand over custody of said children to said spouse; along with a hefty trust fund for each kid -- then at least I'll know they'll be impossible to work for or with in any capacity, and inevitably a poison pill to any effective, sustainable organization. In other words -- you're bluffing. No one (who isn't single and without kids) genuinely believes that you shouldn't "care about other things more than about building a successful business". Everyone knows that it's a balancing act -- it's just a question of how you tune the parameters. But if you genuinely, literally believe that -- then do the world a favor, and put the following disclaimer on each and every job description you put out: "Please be advised that this position is not suitable for persons entrusted with the care of young children (or minors). And in any case, such persons will not be hired."

csbubbles 10y ago
I've been married since 2003, and my daughter is 9 years old. And I do care about my business more than about my family.
- cookiecaper 10y ago
  This is horrifyingly sad. Please erase evidence of this before the HN edit deadline expires and seek therapy. They offer it online now: try http://talkspace.com http://talkspace.com. The impact you can have on the world through children is much bigger than the impact you can have through Yet-Another-Music-Startup. A typical child is going to influence generations. It will be hundreds of years before their significance fades, whether their influence is positive or negative. That is true for anyone who has kids. Be a positive influence. I've personally heard of maybe 3 music startups and I know the names of 0 music-related founders. Most of these companies will exist for a few years and then dissipate, and that's fine. They will serve a function for a limited time and make some users happier, and perhaps provide a good living for their investors, founders, and employees. Then no one will remember them, and that is as it should be. Please come back down to earth. While it's true that you won't become famous by raising good kids, the net effect is far superior for everyone than any corporate effort could be. Family support and encouragement at all levels (parents, spouses, siblings, children) is a pre-requisite, not a drain, that enables the world's visionaries to succeed. Successful relationships with a spouse and a child are (usually) maturing, perspective-broadening things that make people better workers, not worse ones. I'm sure your investors would be very put off if they found these comments, not to mention your wife and daughter should they ever stumble across it. Please do yourself and the innocent people in your family a favor and fix not only these posts, but the attitude that birthed them.