> grievances to burn all bridges You shouldn't be waiting that long. For a civil conversation to be had you need to bring it up as soon as it starts happening.

> grievances to burn all bridges You shouldn't be waiting that long. For a civil conversation to be had you need to bring it up as soon as it starts happening. Lets say for example that I am really really bad at remembering names. I am working with a coworker who only wants to be called by their full last name, not an abbreviation. Not knowing this, I start calling them by their abbreviation and it annoys them significantly. They then confront me about this and I explain why I didn't call them by their full name. I agree to try harder and they agree to work on correcting me when I make the mistake. It's a win win. We've crushed and bad feelings between us, resolved the problem with the best possible outcome, and now I get to correctly refer to my coworker. This only worked since they contacted me as soon as they realized my mistake and gave me a chance to explain myself.