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I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the political climate yet. Millennials aren't having sex for a very simple reason: the risk is too high. We live in an age wh

by lj3 10y ago

I'm surprised nobody has mentioned the political climate yet. Millennials aren't having sex for a very simple reason: the risk is too high. We live in an age where consent can be retroactively withdrawn. If you choose to have a one night stand and you choose your partner poorly, you run a serious risk of becoming a registered sex offender. That's a life sentence. You'll never have a normal job or a normal life after that.

wfo 10y ago
I don't think this really effects people's choices. Anecdotal, but I have not once ever heard of any man in real life stating any real concern this could happen, much less describing it as a reason to avoid sex. It's an incredibly rare event -- there aren't hordes of women out there having sex and then taking it back and ruining the lives of men. There is a tiny, tiny number of pathological ones who have almost no effect on the behavior or culture of the rest of society. Most people haven't even heard of a single person who it's happened to. And it's always something that happens to someone else, and could never happen to you (you aren't a creepy rapey guy, after all), until it does. It is less likely than unluckily sleeping with someone who has AIDS, and having it transmit to you through a condom, or getting struck by lightning mid-coitus. All totally actionable reasons to avoid sex. And you almost certainly won't become a sex offender. You could get expelled from your university if you are a student.
legulere 10y ago
That's a rare thing to happen. Rape cases are brought relatively rarely to police. Then only 2–8% of those rape allegations are false [1]. Around 50% of them aren't against persons (so allegations are like "some stranger raped me"). Next you don't need to have sex with someone so that they can accuse you. I really doubt that there are any persons where this is the main reason they don't have sex. You usually have sex with people that you built up at least a bit of mutual trust and most of the time are in a relationship with. [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape

by lj3 10y ago

wfo 10y ago

I don't think this really effects people's choices. Anecdotal, but I have not once ever heard of any man in real life stating any real concern this could happen, much less describing it as a reason to avoid sex. It's an incredibly rare event -- there aren't hordes of women out there having sex and then taking it back and ruining the lives of men. There is a tiny, tiny number of pathological ones who have almost no effect on the behavior or culture of the rest of society. Most people haven't even heard of a single person who it's happened to. And it's always something that happens to someone else, and could never happen to you (you aren't a creepy rapey guy, after all), until it does. It is less likely than unluckily sleeping with someone who has AIDS, and having it transmit to you through a condom, or getting struck by lightning mid-coitus. All totally actionable reasons to avoid sex. And you almost certainly won't become a sex offender. You could get expelled from your university if you are a student.

legulere 10y ago

That's a rare thing to happen. Rape cases are brought relatively rarely to police. Then only 2–8% of those rape allegations are false [1]. Around 50% of them aren't against persons (so allegations are like "some stranger raped me"). Next you don't need to have sex with someone so that they can accuse you. I really doubt that there are any persons where this is the main reason they don't have sex. You usually have sex with people that you built up at least a bit of mutual trust and most of the time are in a relationship with. [1]: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/False_accusation_of_rape