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The fundamental issue for male contraceptives is that men have a far lower incentive to follow the rules and take them properly. If a woman gets pregnant, that'

The fundamental issue for male contraceptives is that men have a far lower incentive to follow the rules and take them properly. If a woman gets pregnant, that's a very serious life event with serious consequences and potentially choices to be made. If a man gets a woman pregnant (possibly anonymously), there's much lower cost and stress. Thus, no sane woman would ever trust a man who said "I'm on the pill, don't worry".

jsmith0295 10y ago
I think the idea of child support would be more than enough to keep me taking them properly. Obviously that is much less serious of a consequence, but I think it's plenty to get someone to simply take a pill.
cauterized 10y ago
It may not make sense in stranger encounters or even early in a relationship, but it absolutely does later in an established relationship. Besides, with a stranger or early in a relationship you should be using a condom anyway, even if your partner insists they're clean. Because STDs. Never mind pregnancy.
aianus 10y ago
> If a man gets a woman pregnant (possibly anonymously), there's much lower cost and stress. It's exactly the other way around. If I get a woman pregnant by accident and she wants it and I don't, I lose $1000+ a month for the next 18 years. If it's the other way around, she can get an abortion and be back to normal in a couple of months. Not that this is easy on her, but it's easier than earning $200k...
- InternetUser 10y ago
  $216k...unless she let you get away with that last year and 4 months.
geebee 10y ago
I've had this discussion with people, and your opinion is a common one. What can I say? I am personally bewildered that people think that men don't face really serious consequences. For what it's worth, I do agree with you that no sane woman would ever trust a man who said "I'm on the pill, don't worry." The difference is that I think it's a bad idea for anyone to rely on these assurances.

jsmith0295 10y ago

I think the idea of child support would be more than enough to keep me taking them properly. Obviously that is much less serious of a consequence, but I think it's plenty to get someone to simply take a pill.

cauterized 10y ago

It may not make sense in stranger encounters or even early in a relationship, but it absolutely does later in an established relationship. Besides, with a stranger or early in a relationship you should be using a condom anyway, even if your partner insists they're clean. Because STDs. Never mind pregnancy.

aianus 10y ago

> If a man gets a woman pregnant (possibly anonymously), there's much lower cost and stress. It's exactly the other way around. If I get a woman pregnant by accident and she wants it and I don't, I lose $1000+ a month for the next 18 years. If it's the other way around, she can get an abortion and be back to normal in a couple of months. Not that this is easy on her, but it's easier than earning $200k...

InternetUser 10y ago
$216k...unless she let you get away with that last year and 4 months.

geebee 10y ago

I've had this discussion with people, and your opinion is a common one. What can I say? I am personally bewildered that people think that men don't face really serious consequences. For what it's worth, I do agree with you that no sane woman would ever trust a man who said "I'm on the pill, don't worry." The difference is that I think it's a bad idea for anyone to rely on these assurances.