OP, it's very easy to develop this kind of attitude after several unsuccessful attempts at intimacy, but this is awful advice that will keep you from ever being

OP, it's very easy to develop this kind of attitude after several unsuccessful attempts at intimacy, but this is awful advice that will keep you from ever being happy. This is not a societal problem, it's a personal problem that you just haven't found the right person yet. As other people on this thread have said, honestly reflect on what hasn't been working and why. Work on yourself first and foremost so that you are confident in yourself regardless of what others have thought of you in the past. You can totally find a woman that has the qualities you are looking for, not what some resentful throwaway told you to look for.