There's the old saying - boxing matches are won in the gym, not the ring. You'll have to work on understanding other people and their needs, and make yourself

There's the old saying - boxing matches are won in the gym, not the ring. You'll have to work on understanding other people and their needs, and make yourself have the attributes that make a good partner. There is something of a chicken and egg here. Before I had a girlfriend, I understood girls poorly. Now I think I'm not so bad. From being with my girlfriend so long, I might have an easier time talking to girls now than guys. It's really just a learning curve. The thing to do would be to learn without the pressure, ie non-dating relationships like female friends or family. They'd be able to answer you better than HN!