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Agree. I ran a dating site for 7 years and had to deal with such inquiries on a daily basis ("Buhuu, that guy/girl sad mean things to me, close his/her account"

Agree. I ran a dating site for 7 years and had to deal with such inquiries on a daily basis ("Buhuu, that guy/girl sad mean things to me, close his/her account"). Most often it turned out the complaining person was the problem. Worst cases were third parties who requested such actions on behalf of the "victim". They were loud, asked other members to complain too and even showed up in our offices to demand account closings - without any proof or valid reasoning. I never understood how people handle their real lives without being able to argue or verbally discuss such issues. Even if these include occasional insults. IMHO these are just words - you don't need to cry for higher authorities (site admins, conference organizers or law authorities) all the time.

Udo 10y ago
> I never understood how people handle their real lives without being able to argue or verbally discuss such issues My guess is they handle it very well, because they're just using a strategy that works out perfectly for them. This only has to be learned or reinforced once, and it becomes a problem solving strategy for life because it's such an easy exploit to use with our social protocols. It can be used to solve pretty much every issue where they can win by exerting pressure. Whoever happens to get in their way also often takes permanent damage by being labeled something bad that sticks and this hampers that person's ability to not only resolve the issue at hand but prevents them from being heard in the future as well. Either way, you either acquiesce or you get bulldozed.
hasenj 10y ago
Their real lives are most definitely a mess ..