> If parent had talked about military or police, would you have posed the same question? If he had talked about the military, yes I would have posed the same q

> If parent had talked about military or police, would you have posed the same question? If he had talked about the military, yes I would have posed the same question. That people in the US seem to be okay with paramilitaristic private companies is beyond my understanding, but I was not criticizing this here. I am honestly interested in his motivation, because I cannot think of anything I would do with these consequences attached. Maybe when not doing it would make it even worse, but I do not think this applies here. There is another thread where a doctor describes the same horrors, but his motivation is clearly that sometimes his actions can actually avoid this. Yes a soldier could save his friends in a battle, too, but to me the most effective way would be to convince his friends to not go to the battle in the first place, maybe even by leading by example. > Well, you do seem judgemental. As seen above, I am a bit, at least I might have a different view on things. Still you can talk to each other and my question is not political but emotional: Just how can you keep going? If he had talked about the police with this number of losses, I would also ask how you can keep going and not become either depressed or politically active. While there are police deaths, that many OP is describing here are not normal if you look at international statistics, since OP does not seem to be some sort of national police chief, who has to visit every relative of a dead officer and I guess would already be a kind of politician trying to solve the issue.