Just to be clear: you believe SpaceX has "a blatant disregard for even basic elements of safety in their design and operation," and you base this on two anecdot

Just to be clear: you believe SpaceX has "a blatant disregard for even basic elements of safety in their design and operation," and you base this on two anecdotes from friends (which you won't share), and an element of the Falcon 9 that has never caused a loss of vehicle, and is arguably a point of reliability (Falcon 9 can still complete its mission with an engine out, while most other launchers cannot).