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This is absurdly sexist.

by m3rc 10y ago

googletazer 10y ago
Using an -ism in an attempt to shut down an opinion? Just explain WHY?
- m3rc 10y ago
  >divorce is too easy, making it too risky for men (in my country, 72% of "no-fault" divorces were initiated by women for example) divorce is "too easy". The only thing this sentence says is that divorce happens frequently and that's an inherent bad thing. The only implied solution to this problem of divorce being "too easy" to initiate would be to somehow make it more difficult for women to divorce their husbands... an incredibly disturbing sentiment. > young women are not interested in serious relationships (instead they are interested in having fun, one-night stands, drinking, sex, etc...) bog-standard misogyny that reads like a post off of /r9k/, totally anecdotal and paints all young women as stupid and sexually promiscuous.
  - dmansen 10y ago
    yep, seemed pretty obvious to me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
  - googletazer 10y ago
    Great post and I actually agree with you on the "divorce is too easy" point - I don't think there is anything wrong with it being easy to divorce, however I think the real issue is that men get the short end of the stick. Internet gave us transparency and we know it. Men stopped marrying, so the government decided to treat live in arrangements as marriage in an attempt to catch-up. Hilarious if it wasn't so absurd. As for "not interested in serious relationships" I think the posters anecdotes are valid and there is no misogyny on his part. If anything - I'd recommend the OP to embrace the new normal and not stress about it.
    - amyjess 10y ago
      > Men stopped marrying, so the government decided to treat live in arrangements as marriage in an attempt to catch-up. Hilarious if it wasn't so absurd. You're talking about common-law marriage, which is actually a very old institution. The Supreme Court approved its validity in 1877. It also still, in most states that still have it, requires that both members of the couple involved declare themselves to be married and/or present themselves to the community as a married couple. It's actually starting to go away, even: Pennsylvania banned it taking effect in 2005, and Alabama will abolish it effective with the beginning of next year. Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage_in_the_United_States https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage_in_the_Uni...
  - Floegipoky 10y ago
    I think you're confusing career-driven and sexually empowered with "stupid and sexually promiscuous"
- CptJamesCook 10y ago
  People resort to -ism shaming tactics because they aren't comfortable discussing the dirty parts of human nature; they'd rather just silence the conversation. Saying that women are not interested in serious dating isn't sexist, although it is an oversimplification of a real issue. In 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated from U.S. colleges. Today, the odds of a college graduate marrying a non-graduate are lower than at any point since the 1950s. Hence, there are probably more women not engaging in serious relationships. http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2015/07/06/has-being-single-in-america-changed/for-the-college-educated-there-is-a-man-deficit-in-the-us?smid=tw-roomfordebate http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2015/07/06/has-being-si...

This is absurdly sexist.

by m3rc 10y ago

This is absurdly sexist.

googletazer 10y ago

Using an -ism in an attempt to shut down an opinion? Just explain WHY?

m3rc 10y ago
>divorce is too easy, making it too risky for men (in my country, 72% of "no-fault" divorces were initiated by women for example) divorce is "too easy". The only thing this sentence says is that divorce happens frequently and that's an inherent bad thing. The only implied solution to this problem of divorce being "too easy" to initiate would be to somehow make it more difficult for women to divorce their husbands... an incredibly disturbing sentiment. > young women are not interested in serious relationships (instead they are interested in having fun, one-night stands, drinking, sex, etc...) bog-standard misogyny that reads like a post off of /r9k/, totally anecdotal and paints all young women as stupid and sexually promiscuous.
- dmansen 10y ago
  yep, seemed pretty obvious to me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
- googletazer 10y ago
  Great post and I actually agree with you on the "divorce is too easy" point - I don't think there is anything wrong with it being easy to divorce, however I think the real issue is that men get the short end of the stick. Internet gave us transparency and we know it. Men stopped marrying, so the government decided to treat live in arrangements as marriage in an attempt to catch-up. Hilarious if it wasn't so absurd. As for "not interested in serious relationships" I think the posters anecdotes are valid and there is no misogyny on his part. If anything - I'd recommend the OP to embrace the new normal and not stress about it.
  - amyjess 10y ago
    > Men stopped marrying, so the government decided to treat live in arrangements as marriage in an attempt to catch-up. Hilarious if it wasn't so absurd. You're talking about common-law marriage, which is actually a very old institution. The Supreme Court approved its validity in 1877. It also still, in most states that still have it, requires that both members of the couple involved declare themselves to be married and/or present themselves to the community as a married couple. It's actually starting to go away, even: Pennsylvania banned it taking effect in 2005, and Alabama will abolish it effective with the beginning of next year. Source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage_in_the_United_States https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Common-law_marriage_in_the_Uni...
- Floegipoky 10y ago
  I think you're confusing career-driven and sexually empowered with "stupid and sexually promiscuous"
CptJamesCook 10y ago
People resort to -ism shaming tactics because they aren't comfortable discussing the dirty parts of human nature; they'd rather just silence the conversation. Saying that women are not interested in serious dating isn't sexist, although it is an oversimplification of a real issue. In 2012, 34 percent more women than men graduated from U.S. colleges. Today, the odds of a college graduate marrying a non-graduate are lower than at any point since the 1950s. Hence, there are probably more women not engaging in serious relationships. http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2015/07/06/has-being-single-in-america-changed/for-the-college-educated-there-is-a-man-deficit-in-the-us?smid=tw-roomfordebate http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2015/07/06/has-being-si...