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Well, it is what they told me and my friends, and what my younger sister and her friends tell to men interested in them. Purely anecdotal, but as a guy 28 year

by speeder 10y ago

Well, it is what they told me and my friends, and what my younger sister and her friends tell to men interested in them. Purely anecdotal, but as a guy 28 years old without a girlfriend, I would love to be proven wrong.

navait 10y ago
Why do you think your ancedotes are the authoritative source of information on all women?
- polotics 10y ago
  If you look for statistics on how women have the upper-hand in term of choice of mate until some age in their thirties (varies by country/state) and the balance then brutally shifts the other way... then you will find plenty. sorry no time to look for references, but really this should be common knowledge
sp527 10y ago
Stop looking for a girlfriend in bars and on Tinder. Go to events/meetups/friends' parties and talk to girls while there.
m3rc 10y ago
The plural of anecdote is not statistics. Maybe you should stop looking for confirmation that women are the problem
JetSetWilly 10y ago
Young women get a lot of offers, they of course have to tell 99% of them that they are not interested - and to avoid hurting the guy's feelings, best to say you are against the whole idea of a relationship.
- StillBored 10y ago
  Right, so you can conclude three things. She isn't currently in a relationship, and isn't actually interested in one, or she is looking for something "better". So, he should be figuring out how to keep these girls in his social circle, rather than considering it a rejection. Guys have time on their side, and maintaining contact with people has a way of moving them closer. Sadly, like anything else "playing the game" is how you win. Getting to know people has a way of overriding the initial physical attraction. Of course, it can go the other way too, physically attractive women can frequently be socially disgusting princesses.
TorKlingberg 10y ago
Have you also asked young men about their interest in serious vs. casual relationships?

by speeder 10y ago

navait 10y ago

Why do you think your ancedotes are the authoritative source of information on all women?

polotics 10y ago
If you look for statistics on how women have the upper-hand in term of choice of mate until some age in their thirties (varies by country/state) and the balance then brutally shifts the other way... then you will find plenty. sorry no time to look for references, but really this should be common knowledge

sp527 10y ago

Stop looking for a girlfriend in bars and on Tinder. Go to events/meetups/friends' parties and talk to girls while there.

m3rc 10y ago

The plural of anecdote is not statistics. Maybe you should stop looking for confirmation that women are the problem

JetSetWilly 10y ago

Young women get a lot of offers, they of course have to tell 99% of them that they are not interested - and to avoid hurting the guy's feelings, best to say you are against the whole idea of a relationship.

StillBored 10y ago
Right, so you can conclude three things. She isn't currently in a relationship, and isn't actually interested in one, or she is looking for something "better". So, he should be figuring out how to keep these girls in his social circle, rather than considering it a rejection. Guys have time on their side, and maintaining contact with people has a way of moving them closer. Sadly, like anything else "playing the game" is how you win. Getting to know people has a way of overriding the initial physical attraction. Of course, it can go the other way too, physically attractive women can frequently be socially disgusting princesses.

TorKlingberg 10y ago

Have you also asked young men about their interest in serious vs. casual relationships?