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> young women are not interested in serious relationships Where did you get those weird stereotypes from?

speeder 10y ago
Well, it is what they told me and my friends, and what my younger sister and her friends tell to men interested in them. Purely anecdotal, but as a guy 28 years old without a girlfriend, I would love to be proven wrong.
- navait 10y ago
  Why do you think your ancedotes are the authoritative source of information on all women?
  - polotics 10y ago
    If you look for statistics on how women have the upper-hand in term of choice of mate until some age in their thirties (varies by country/state) and the balance then brutally shifts the other way... then you will find plenty. sorry no time to look for references, but really this should be common knowledge
- sp527 10y ago
  Stop looking for a girlfriend in bars and on Tinder. Go to events/meetups/friends' parties and talk to girls while there.
- m3rc 10y ago
  The plural of anecdote is not statistics. Maybe you should stop looking for confirmation that women are the problem
- JetSetWilly 10y ago
  Young women get a lot of offers, they of course have to tell 99% of them that they are not interested - and to avoid hurting the guy's feelings, best to say you are against the whole idea of a relationship.
  - StillBored 10y ago
    Right, so you can conclude three things. She isn't currently in a relationship, and isn't actually interested in one, or she is looking for something "better". So, he should be figuring out how to keep these girls in his social circle, rather than considering it a rejection. Guys have time on their side, and maintaining contact with people has a way of moving them closer. Sadly, like anything else "playing the game" is how you win. Getting to know people has a way of overriding the initial physical attraction. Of course, it can go the other way too, physically attractive women can frequently be socially disgusting princesses.
- TorKlingberg 10y ago
  Have you also asked young men about their interest in serious vs. casual relationships?
StillBored 10y ago
I'm not sure I necessarily agree with the GP, but average marriage ages have been steadily increasing. https://www.google.com/search?q=average+marrage+age https://www.google.com/search?q=average+marrage+age For women its gone up nearly 5 years in the last 25. A 28 Y/O guy is probably dating women younger than the average marriage age at this point. Especially true, if those women happen to be college educated. Of course, the "I'm not looking for a serious relationship" line is being used like "lets be friends". AKA "Your nice, but I'm looking for someone higher up the mating hierarchy." Frankly, if I were in my 20's, single, and got a line like this from a women, unless it came with some form of explicit rejection, I would consider it a bonus. A single guy in his 20s should be enjoying his freedom, and having an bunch of casual date/etc partners shouldn't be viewed as a problem. Guys have time on their side, and that starts to become really apparent in the 30's.

Well, it is what they told me and my friends, and what my younger sister and her friends tell to men interested in them. Purely anecdotal, but as a guy 28 years old without a girlfriend, I would love to be proven wrong.

navait 10y ago
Why do you think your ancedotes are the authoritative source of information on all women?
- polotics 10y ago
  If you look for statistics on how women have the upper-hand in term of choice of mate until some age in their thirties (varies by country/state) and the balance then brutally shifts the other way... then you will find plenty. sorry no time to look for references, but really this should be common knowledge
sp527 10y ago
Stop looking for a girlfriend in bars and on Tinder. Go to events/meetups/friends' parties and talk to girls while there.
m3rc 10y ago
The plural of anecdote is not statistics. Maybe you should stop looking for confirmation that women are the problem
JetSetWilly 10y ago
Young women get a lot of offers, they of course have to tell 99% of them that they are not interested - and to avoid hurting the guy's feelings, best to say you are against the whole idea of a relationship.
- StillBored 10y ago
  Right, so you can conclude three things. She isn't currently in a relationship, and isn't actually interested in one, or she is looking for something "better". So, he should be figuring out how to keep these girls in his social circle, rather than considering it a rejection. Guys have time on their side, and maintaining contact with people has a way of moving them closer. Sadly, like anything else "playing the game" is how you win. Getting to know people has a way of overriding the initial physical attraction. Of course, it can go the other way too, physically attractive women can frequently be socially disgusting princesses.
TorKlingberg 10y ago
Have you also asked young men about their interest in serious vs. casual relationships?

StillBored 10y ago

I'm not sure I necessarily agree with the GP, but average marriage ages have been steadily increasing. https://www.google.com/search?q=average+marrage+age https://www.google.com/search?q=average+marrage+age For women its gone up nearly 5 years in the last 25. A 28 Y/O guy is probably dating women younger than the average marriage age at this point. Especially true, if those women happen to be college educated. Of course, the "I'm not looking for a serious relationship" line is being used like "lets be friends". AKA "Your nice, but I'm looking for someone higher up the mating hierarchy." Frankly, if I were in my 20's, single, and got a line like this from a women, unless it came with some form of explicit rejection, I would consider it a bonus. A single guy in his 20s should be enjoying his freedom, and having an bunch of casual date/etc partners shouldn't be viewed as a problem. Guys have time on their side, and that starts to become really apparent in the 30's.