Hey man, i've been where you are and managed to push through that depression and get myself where I want to be in life. I want to preface that we're pretty sim

Hey man, i've been where you are and managed to push through that depression and get myself where I want to be in life. I want to preface that we're pretty similar, i'm 5'7, I weigh 175 (Beer Gut) and i'm of asian ethnicity. I have hair, but i've done the shaved head because its cheap and easy to maintain, so again we're on even footing. Lastly, what I have really going against me is I have really poor eyesight, I wear big thick glasses and I can't even drive because of my eyesight (Thank god for Uber and public transporttion). So regardless of all this, I was still getting dates on OkC, and I was literally filtering women in a 2 mile radius from my house (because again, I can't drive). You're going to hear the same set of advice over and over; be yourself, looks don't matter, etc etc, and really it is true, once you understand one crucial thing. You have to love yourself. This is probably the biggest thing I had to learn on my own. I had desperately wanted companionship all my teenage life and was doing everything I can to get into relationships. From reading PUA and seduction, to going out on weekends trying to pickup girls, everything was a failure. At some point though in my late 20's, I woke up one day and realized I needed to change my life. Einstein has a quote that goes something like "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result". I kept repeating the same things, and I didn't change the real fundamental problem, I wasn't happy, and mainly I wasn't happy with myself. So I started working on myself and worked on things that improved my mood and lifestyle. I was actually working retail jobs until the age of 27 when I graduated from College, my stupid Business Admin degree led to minimum wage startup jobs, but I was able to learn quick and got promotions and raises allowing me to gain independence. Then I started focusing on taking care of myself properly, annual doctor visits, Brushing my teeth everyday, etc. Anything that can make my life positive, I tried to incorporate. Once I was happy where I was in life, online dating became much much easier. I was able to write a better profile and my messages to women were light hearted and had no expectations behind them. I was in love with me and me only and was allowing the chance for other people to see how great I am. From there I got a GF and now i'm planning to propose to her in the next year. So just remember, things will get better, but you HAVE to put in the work to get there, nothing in life is given to you, you have to earn it and once you earn that you learn to respect it and love it and cherish it.