I don't see why it "isn't HN". I know I do, but I'm sure many of us obsess over our goals and our companies at the expense of relationships and often find ourse

I don't see why it "isn't HN". I know I do, but I'm sure many of us obsess over our goals and our companies at the expense of relationships and often find ourselves in similar, albeit temporary situations, where we know any potential relationship is doomed to end (on less tragic terms) yet still desire a relationship anyway. Back on topic, I would reconsider whether limiting a person's exposure to premature grief actually protects anyone. That may be the flaw you're looking for.