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I'd disagree with your statement that "the van isn't a big deal" in your last sentence. If you feel that you have to be upfront with everyone about living in a
by elliotec 10y ago
I'd disagree with your statement that "the van isn't a big deal" in your last sentence.
If you feel that you have to be upfront with everyone about living in a van, it sort of becomes an enormous part of your identity, which I would call a big deal.
- geocar 10y agoI think he means that it isn't interfering with his romantic life. Some people (especially programmers) use the expression "it's not a big deal" to indicate something is straightforward (when you're thinking about it correctly), not to quantify its importance.
- tdobson 10y agoYeah. It rules out some people. It's attractive to some people. Clearly rules oneself out from others. It doesn't really matter because with dating - you only need to win once.
- VLM 10y agoThe analogy I've seen used on other sites is its like a food allergy, which is extremely important when selecting a restaurant or buying picnic food, but it doesn't significantly impair or impact social activity, or it only impacts it as much as you permit it to make you feel bad.