You may want to consider rephrasing your question to, "Why is it so hard for me to work with non-developers?" Please take this in the spirit it is intended, wh

You may want to consider rephrasing your question to, "Why is it so hard for me to work with non-developers?" Please take this in the spirit it is intended, which is to help you not feel stressed. I think the most helpful thing you can do is understand the priorities of the non-developers and speak to those points. If the non-developer believes you understand their priorities they will have confidence in you, and they will take your input/responses at face value. If you think that your ability to communicate with non-developers is limited find an example that you can learn from to improve your effectiveness. Sales engineers are technically proficient, but they have the ability to present and communicate to non-technical parties in an effective manner. Part of the key to that is focusing on the objective rather than getting someone to understand something as well as you do.