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You don't think that when you decide to live in another country, it might be wise to make some effort to adjust to the culture of that country? Here's a tip: B
by roundsquare 17y ago
You don't think that when you decide to live in another country, it might be wise to make some effort to adjust to the culture of that country?
Here's a tip: Before you let anything offend you, try to see if the other person might not have meant to offend you. Really try hard and give them the benefit of the doubt. At the end, if you think "they didn't mean to, but I'm still offended" then you should talk to the person.
- btilly 17y agoHeh. It is a very Western attitude to think that you should talk to the person. My brother lived for many years in Taiwan and now lives in China. There it would be impolite to criticize someone to their face, so the polite way to criticize them is to tell your friends who tell their friends, who tell them. Politely. Unfortunately Westerners who are put in that environment often respond with, "If anyone has a beef with me they should talk to me directly." Then don't change. And refuse to understand that they are being rude to dismiss polite feedback, and are compounding their mistake by demanding that other people be rude as well.
- roundsquare 17y agoSorry, good point. My main point is that you should make some effort to understand the customs of wherever you are. In that light, I'll update my advice: At the end, if you think "they didn't mean to, but I'm still offended" then you should take the appropriate action.