Sounds like it may help to practice being more assertive. The way you described how you're treated by your and employer and wife sounds like a doormat. In my ex

Sounds like it may help to practice being more assertive. The way you described how you're treated by your and employer and wife sounds like a doormat. In my experience, not voicing your own needs/desires can really take a toll on your feeling of self worth. Finding a good therapist really helped me in that area. Best of luck.