Perhaps Crocker's rules [0] is the one you're thinking of? Someone shared the link with me recently in a thread on optimism and feedback [1]. > By declaring c

Perhaps Crocker's rules [0] is the one you're thinking of? Someone shared the link with me recently in a thread on optimism and feedback [1]. > By declaring commitment to Crocker's rules, one authorizes other debaters to optimize their messages for information, even when this entails that emotional feelings will be disregarded. This means that you have accepted full responsibility for the operation of your own mind, so that if you're offended, it's your own fault. > In contrast to radical honesty, Crocker's rules encourage being tactful with anyone who hasn't specifically accepted them. This follows the general principle of being "liberal in what you accept and conservative in what you send". [0]: https://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Crocker's_rules https://wiki.lesswrong.com/wiki/Crocker's_rules [1]: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12298898 https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=12298898