Thank you for making my point for me. Things do happen to you, things you can't control. You can however control your reaction. You are choosing to be scared,

Thank you for making my point for me. Things do happen to you, things you can't control. You can however control your reaction. You are choosing to be scared, or not enter therapy, or talk to somebody about that. Maybe you don't have enough money to talk to a therapist, or you have other things on your plate, or your social anxiety isn't a huge problem, something you can deal with. The onus is still on YOU to deal with your anxiety, not on the world to treat you with kid gloves. Internal rather than external locus of control.