Pay attention to everything that is apparently mundane and ordinary. Don't dismiss it as normal or uninteresting. The more different things you can appreciate i

Pay attention to everything that is apparently mundane and ordinary. Don't dismiss it as normal or uninteresting. The more different things you can appreciate in this way, the easier it is to let go of the "surface stuff" and be who you are inclined to be naturally, as over time your values will adjust to make room for the mundane and it correspondingly becomes easier to see what you really care about. If you cling to a narrow value system then you never hit the point where it coheres into a life you feel in control of - and that will really leave you adrift when you're older and all the opportunities have passed!