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> When I come home, there's my girlfriend. Sure I love her and I definitely can't afford my own rent, but sometimes I just wish I could come home to an empty ap
by et-al 10y ago
> When I come home, there's my girlfriend. Sure I love her and I definitely can't afford my own rent, but sometimes I just wish I could come home to an empty apartment, you know?
This may be naïve, but have you and her talked about this? I understand it may be possible for her to interpret wrong, but it sounds like something that you two can work out without needing to rent a separate apartment.
- Swizec 10y agoIt's more like, if I'm going to have roommates anyway, I want it to be my girlfriend. And I do enjoy living with her, it's just that I also miss being alone. She'd probably spend a lot of time at my place, or vice-versa, anyway so it definitely makes sense to live together. It's also one of those things that are nearly impossible to back down from without harming the relationship once you reach this stage.
- et-al 10y agoYeah, what I was getting at was maybe setting aside a few days in the week when you come back to an empty apartment. I've been in relationships where I've spent a weekend at hers, but tell her I need to go for a walk by myself. It may come off weird, but most of them have been cool with it once I explain and offer reassurance that it's not because the relationship is fracturing.