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My fiance is extremely introverted. We eventually realized that she needed this "apartment to myself" feeling at least once a week in order to function in the r
by nibs 10y ago
My fiance is extremely introverted. We eventually realized that she needed this "apartment to myself" feeling at least once a week in order to function in the real world and do the extrovert obligations she needed to do. So we instituted "introvert time", where I work late until around 10PM and leave our place to her for about five hours after she gets home.
This is enough for her to take the time to walk around undressed, read articles, make some food, watch junk TV and enjoy the silence before I get home. Relationship-defining quality of life improvement. I similarly enjoy working late knowing it is creating value (as opposed to feeling guilty and conflicted, which eventually becomes burnout). Highly recommend it.
- whoozhat 10y agocurious... what are you guys gonna do when you have kids?
- mhurron 10y agoWhy do you act like they have to?
- benologist 10y agoHe currently works overtime to give her time alone. Only thing that changes is work stops solving the problem of how to be out of the house.
- nibs 10y agoThis. I will take the kids somewhere to do something while she is alone. Otherwise same deal. It is worth it net net.
- r00fus 10y agoThey parents grow up. You don't realize how much more growing up you have to do until you have kids.
- Grishnakh 10y agoSuffer. Why do you think married couples with kids are always so miserable?
- new_hackers 10y agoI think this is the same as what most suburbanites experience. The "garage", "man-cave", "fishing" etc is not always just for the guys. It basically allows the women to have some downtime for themselves. It took me a little while to learn in my married life that spending Saturday morning doing outside chores allowed me to have a much more satisfying Saturday night.