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I experienced something similar. Having my own small apartment was one of the best feelings I've ever experienced in my life. I'm a bit antisocial, but not seve

by nilkn 10y ago

I experienced something similar. Having my own small apartment was one of the best feelings I've ever experienced in my life. I'm a bit antisocial, but not severely so. I'm more introverted than anything else, and I discovered that I'm incredibly productive when I have a space to myself that I can retire to whenever I want and over which I have complete control. All my life I struggled with issues related to introversion, and having my own apartment basically solved all of them overnight. I've never been more social in my life than I was when I lived alone. The reason is simple: I was always able to recharge and never got to the point of being consistently drained. I've been conflicted ever since with how I want to live the rest of my life, as living alone is in conflict with a lot of other goals that are also very important to me, like marriage.

beachstartup 10y ago
having a nice studio apartment to yourself in a city of your choosing is one of the best parts of being single, if not the best part.
agumonkey 10y ago
Once I was shifted because I always came late at work[1]. At 6pm, almost everybody in the building left. The moment the last colleague leaves, I can feel my mind expand and projects ideas onto the walls. It went from absurd mayhem to my own private lab. Bliss. The power of private walls. [1] most absurd project I had the pleasure to witness, no organization whatsoever, being there at 7 would only mean waiting 2hours for directions, hence my lack of timeliness.
lrem 10y ago
Make sure that the person you marry understands your introversion. Even if you truly fall in love, after a couple years you will need some quiet time (the first few years may get you off your usual ways). If (s)he does not know why you seem to evade contact, it won't do any good for the two of you. Also, business travel is a blessing.
kayla210 10y ago
I'm currently dealing with if I want to rent out an apartment by myself or if I want to find a roommate/friend to share it with. On one hand, YAY NO PEOPLE AND FULL CONTROL OF THE PLACE; on the other hand, I don't want to get depressed when I start missing seeing people when I get home. I feel like living on my own would help me so much socially/physically/emotionally than finding someone to room with.
- Klinky 10y ago
  Roommates should be seen as a business transaction. I would not rely on then for social interaction. Some of the horror stories suggest they could be very detrimental to your mental health. Also a quick way to find out you don't like your friend as much as you thought you did is to live with them 24/7.
  - kayla210 10y ago
    That's true. I believe I make enough to manage a decent-to-nice apartment on my own, so I won't have to have a roommate to make rent. Right now, I'm just saving up and paying off student loans and my credit card and casually looking at apartments near the city and my work.
Jade_Jet 10y ago
I'm very much introverted and like doing my own thing a lot. My wife is the same way. I was worried about the same thing you are. The key is to find someone who gets you and can relate to that feeling. My home is still a safe escape for me, but my home is my wife now as cheesy as that sounds.

by nilkn 10y ago

beachstartup 10y ago

having a nice studio apartment to yourself in a city of your choosing is one of the best parts of being single, if not the best part.

agumonkey 10y ago

Once I was shifted because I always came late at work[1]. At 6pm, almost everybody in the building left. The moment the last colleague leaves, I can feel my mind expand and projects ideas onto the walls. It went from absurd mayhem to my own private lab. Bliss. The power of private walls. [1] most absurd project I had the pleasure to witness, no organization whatsoever, being there at 7 would only mean waiting 2hours for directions, hence my lack of timeliness.

lrem 10y ago

Make sure that the person you marry understands your introversion. Even if you truly fall in love, after a couple years you will need some quiet time (the first few years may get you off your usual ways). If (s)he does not know why you seem to evade contact, it won't do any good for the two of you. Also, business travel is a blessing.

kayla210 10y ago

I'm currently dealing with if I want to rent out an apartment by myself or if I want to find a roommate/friend to share it with. On one hand, YAY NO PEOPLE AND FULL CONTROL OF THE PLACE; on the other hand, I don't want to get depressed when I start missing seeing people when I get home. I feel like living on my own would help me so much socially/physically/emotionally than finding someone to room with.

Klinky 10y ago
Roommates should be seen as a business transaction. I would not rely on then for social interaction. Some of the horror stories suggest they could be very detrimental to your mental health. Also a quick way to find out you don't like your friend as much as you thought you did is to live with them 24/7.
- kayla210 10y ago
  That's true. I believe I make enough to manage a decent-to-nice apartment on my own, so I won't have to have a roommate to make rent. Right now, I'm just saving up and paying off student loans and my credit card and casually looking at apartments near the city and my work.

Jade_Jet 10y ago

I'm very much introverted and like doing my own thing a lot. My wife is the same way. I was worried about the same thing you are. The key is to find someone who gets you and can relate to that feeling. My home is still a safe escape for me, but my home is my wife now as cheesy as that sounds.