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For me the issue with bigger cities isn't the financial but the human aspect. I see people all around me with their friends and relationships having a good soci

For me the issue with bigger cities isn't the financial but the human aspect. I see people all around me with their friends and relationships having a good social time, and it makes me crave interaction and friendship, things that are challenging to just pull out of nowhere, especially in NYC where you're liable to get ignored if you say hello to a stranger on the street. Many people make friends at work, but I find software development an isolating profession, even though the pay is more than sufficient. In my limited experience, it seems to me that in the countryside, being alone is solitude, but in a city, being alone is lonely...

edraferi 10y ago
I've been there. The way out I found was intentionally seeking out connections to existing social networks: 1) identify a place where you can get repeated, informal contact with people. Classes, meetups, volunteer groups are good to start. 2) cycle through those until you find one you like, then persist. Be friendly, make the first move, etc. 3) evaluate the acquaintances from step 2 based on THEIR friends as much as the individuals. Put time and effort into the people that connect you to other good people. 4) profit!