I agree that CBT falls short with severe issues. I was going to CBT therapy and it caused the relationship issues with my wife (who suffers from borderline pers

I agree that CBT falls short with severe issues. I was going to CBT therapy and it caused the relationship issues with my wife (who suffers from borderline personality disorder) to be amplified greatly. My CBT therapist would constantly show me how my wife is irrational and manipulative. It caused huge amounts of distress to the relationship. I am now going to a therapist who does DBT and understands borderline personality disorder. CBT is still applied where it is useful but these issues require deep self-introspection and looking into the past. I've been so much better at communicating with my wife and have discovered my own codependency issues I need to work on. I no longer see my wife as someone who is evil and manipulative but understand that what she does and says is out of fear of abandonment.