This used to be why I liked OKCupid. If you rated somebody with a 1-star rating, and they did the same, then OKC told you, and there were no hurt feelings, just

This used to be why I liked OKCupid. If you rated somebody with a 1-star rating, and they did the same, then OKC told you, and there were no hurt feelings, just "hey they're not interested". At some point someone got hurt feelings, and the instantaneous feedback of "if I give her a 1 star, do I get an email telling me she's not interested, since women tend to be indirect and not want to hurt feelings" went away. It turned into a wall you threw your introductory messages over, with a bottom-less pit on the other side of the wal.