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You make good points, but something is definitely lost when someone is forced to give up a sensitive personality due to an overly-abrasive society. Politeness i

• keefe 17y ago
  Politeness is good for us. Weakness is not.
• dnsworks 17y ago
  This used to be why I liked OKCupid. If you rated somebody with a 1-star rating, and they did the same, then OKC told you, and there were no hurt feelings, just "hey they're not interested". At some point someone got hurt feelings, and the instantaneous feedback of "if I give her a 1 star, do I get an email telling me she's not interested, since women tend to be indirect and not want to hurt feelings" went away. It turned into a wall you threw your introductory messages over, with a bottom-less pit on the other side of the wal.
• billswift 17y ago
  "Moving parts in rubbing contact require lubrication to avoid excessive wear. Honorifics and formal politeness [good manners] provide lubrication where people rub together. Often the very young, the untraveled, the naive, the unsophisticated deplore these formalities as "empty", "meaningless", or "dishonest", and scorn to use them. No matter how "pure" their motives, they thereby throw sand into machinery that does not work too well at best." - - Lazarus Long