It's tough to not think about what you want to say/add when the conversation is engaging. That is, "your thoughts, when told to me, made me have my own thought

It's tough to not think about what you want to say/add when the conversation is engaging. That is, "your thoughts, when told to me, made me have my own thoughts about the subject which, hopefully when I tell you, will make you think as well." There are moments where I stop myself from interjecting during a quick pause, and rather politely wait for a long pause to add my viewpoint only for the conversation to have altered course to the point that I'd have to backtrack on a topic no one is talking about anymore. Something that is especially difficult to do when it's a group conversation. To disengage the impulse to attempt to further/enrich the conversation has got to be a learned behavior, in my view. This type of debate raises the question of what kind of conversation is best. Is just being listened to better than having a thoroughly-engaging convo? Depends on the person and the moment.