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My take on listening: https://letmeexplainyou.wordpress.com/2016/08/17/how-to-listen-well/ https://letmeexplainyou.wordpress.com/2016/08/17/how-to-list... TL;
by cammil 10y ago
My take on listening:
https://letmeexplainyou.wordpress.com/2016/08/17/how-to-listen-well/ https://letmeexplainyou.wordpress.com/2016/08/17/how-to-list...
TL;DR / Summary:
Listening is innate
Listening is not an active skill. Practicing it as such diminishes your ability to truly listen.
Listening is improved through improving your own peace of mind
One’s peace of mind is improved by doing good things. E.g. completing chores, being nice to people, doing things that reduce your regrets / guilt, etc.
DO NOT follow much of the incorrect advice given around active listening and traits of a good listener.
Listening is a special case of all using any sense, and the above advice applies similarly
- throwanem 10y agoI mean, I hear where you're coming from and I'm not going to say you're wrong, but this is like saying that endurance training is unnecessary because humans are innately able to run marathons.
- cammil 10y agoI think metaphors and analogies are difficult to argue with. Of course I am saying something which is hopefully falsifiable otherwise I am not really saying anything at all. The best way to test this is some kind of controlled experiment. But aint nobody got time for that. I would say however, there is absolutely no need to take my word for it. I would actually recommend you don't. You can test this out for yourself. I would certainly recommend that. After all, it's more about what works for you.
- throwanem 10y ago> it's more about what works for you No. It's about what works for the person to whom I'm listening, and my experience suggests at best an extremely limited role for a personal zen, however well polished.
- cammil 10y agoWell then our experiences differ. That's okay. Of course your experience is your evidence. And that is what I mean by "what works for you".