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Most people prefer talking to listening, so just asking a few question can get most conversations going. It's not unusual to hear someone say "we had such a gre
by ptype 10y ago
Most people prefer talking to listening, so just asking a few question can get most conversations going. It's not unusual to hear someone say "we had such a great chat" when really that person did most of the talking. A trick that is used by many introverts, with great success.
- ethanbond 10y ago"With great success" for the introvert. The person doing the talking didn't really gain anything. And also when this happens to me I actually don't enjoy it. Propping up one sided conversations sucks, and I doubt that nearly as many people enjoy it as you're assuming.
- throwanem 10y ago> The person doing the talking didn't really gain anything. That's not necessarily so. If you just sit there like a lemon while somebody makes words at you, then, sure, they're not likely to get a lot out of it, except perhaps slightly improved buccal muscle tone. You have it within your power to produce a more valuable result.
- Practicality 10y agoYou're making the same mistake as the person you are criticizing: Assuming that most people feel the same way you do about speaking vs listening. As always, it depends on what the person needs. It seems like you are a person who needs others to answer back and you feel like you are "giving" and the other is "taking" if you are talking and they aren't. Many feel the opposite. Listening is giving and talking is taking. For a lot of people talking is much easier than listening. You just say whatever comes into your head. Neither of you are more correct. Personally, I hate it when either person monologues. Both people talking is preferred. But that is just a preference.