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Everything you do "demonstrates value." So what? You need to know what your date values, and that can vary wildly enough that you cannot reasonably predict it.
by Retra 10y ago
Everything you do "demonstrates value." So what? You need to know what your date values, and that can vary wildly enough that you cannot reasonably predict it. Thus the purpose of a date is not to "demonstrate value", but to let someone else analyze your value for themselves.
Sure, you can find trends, but you're never dating trends. Real people are not averages of a population.
>Not sure what you mean.
When you say "but you're still demonstrating value", you are reducing dating analysis to a tautology. It will either be untrue or useless. Something has to fail to demonstrate value in order for you to determine not to do it. And you can't do that without knowing the person you're dating.
Which is at the heart of everyone else's point: Dating is about finding out what your date values, not 'demonstrating' what you imagine it is that they value.
- wyager 10y agoSo what you're telling me is that healthy, fit, intelligent, and wealthy person isn't going to have more dating success than a sickly, scrawny, impoverished idiot? Interesting theory. > you cannot reasonably predict it. I think I just did.
- Retra 10y agoYou're predicting broad trends. You're not determining the actual outcome of individual dates. A "sickly, scrawny, impoverished idiot" can have successful dates, and you've just failed to predict that. When you go on a date, whether the average person would like you means nothing. Whether the person actually sitting in front of you likes you means everything. And you can't predict that. You are talking about the middle of a bell curve, and you're failing to understand how wide that curve is and how strong the tails are. Which is why I said you're failing to understand human diversity.