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This whole line of reasoning is self-defeating. If what you say is true, then I should go out right now and buy expensive cars and clothes for the sole purpose
by Retra 10y ago
This whole line of reasoning is self-defeating. If what you say is true, then I should go out right now and buy expensive cars and clothes for the sole purpose of attracting a mate. Which should clearly demonstrate that I am not financially well-off, smart, or responsible in any way. And it would mean nothing if I am unattractive in other ways.
>And unfortunately unless you're a doctor, lawyer, or CEO, 'having nice things' is the only socially appropriate way to signal that.
Meaningful conversation, a sense of humor, good looks, and an approachable demeanor are all perfectly socially appropriate, and they tend to attract people much more reliably.
- aianus 10y agoI meant nice clothes, nice car, nice apartment, etc are the only socially acceptable ways to demonstrate financial success to a stranger unless you have a prestige career. There are obviously many other factors besides financial success (and more important ones!) in being attractive.