i don't think that it's that, although i am aware it's a (subconscious) possibility. rather, it seems like it's connected to relative levels of power / wealth.

i don't think that it's that, although i am aware it's a (subconscious) possibility. rather, it seems like it's connected to relative levels of power / wealth. i am wary of doing anything that "uses" someone when there's a large difference (in power / wealth) because it would be so easy to coerce them. one way in which i can draw a difference: i really don't think this involved "ordinary conversation" (and if i am wrong, and it was - obviously there is no way for me to know for certain - then that would make me much more comfortable; it's also true that i am a poor communicator and i may be projecting my lack of ability...).