My thoughts, a bit too late: I guess your takeaway from that story about my father is very different from mine. What I took from that was the extreme serendipi

My thoughts, a bit too late: I guess your takeaway from that story about my father is very different from mine. What I took from that was the extreme serendipity that my friend's parents happened to be in school with my dad, and that I happened to be friends with her in a different country, and that those people were still around to talk to me. It's basically by sheer dumb luck that I managed to learn some of the most important things about the person I was once closest to in life. Now of course, as you say, there's a way to do this well and a way to do this poorly. But that fact is, if we don't write it down it will be forgotten. We're just trying to do the easiest thing and write it down.