I wasn't talking to the HN crowd. I was talking to you. I'm well aware that rapport is not just from NLP. But thanks for clarifying for everyone else. Your poi

I wasn't talking to the HN crowd. I was talking to you. I'm well aware that rapport is not just from NLP. But thanks for clarifying for everyone else. Your point on people-pleasing: that if they are too self-absorbed to form rapport, then they are not really people pleasing. In my experience talking and interacting with people, that is exactly it: folks will see themselves as pleasing others, but in reality, they are not actually doing so, because they are not doing so in integrity. That is the read I on "people pleasers", and that is the read I get from that article. For me, if someone is pleasing others and they are doing so in integrity, I don't see the issue with that. In general, that that rarely happens. As for the recursion, that is the basic path but it isn't as simple as that. For one thing, fhe intellect alone is inadequate for the task. This was why I was talking about awareness, not intellect. When there are deeper rooted issues, the emotional attachment might even hijack the intellect to come up with rational explanations on why the deeper issues should not be explored. My exploration of this comes from the meditation / shamanic / psychonaut approaches, and not clinical psychology. Where you can go if you dig impeccably and with an open mind will go to some really strange places. I'd love to see or talk with someone to see if the implications from those strange places changes or inflects effective altruism and infinite ethics.