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"Pleasing people most definitely pays. That is how the world works; you give people what they want, and you get paid. Supply and demand." <-- That might sound m
by hosh 10y ago
"Pleasing people most definitely pays. That is how the world works; you give people what they want, and you get paid. Supply and demand." <-- That might sound mature and sophisticated, but it's actually a fairly naive perspective. Superficially, yeah, sucking up and giving people what they want (vs. what they need) will pay. At least in the short-term. However, over many iterations of this, the payoff becomes less and less.
"Talking about truth and white lie as a dichotomy is childish. They are tools in a toolbox. If you feel guilty because you lied, then you are a slave to the principle of honesty." <-- that's a fairly immature perspective. You're conflating honesty with integrity or authenticity.
Integrity is wholeness of being, and it includes all of a person. It includes both the parts that will lie, cheat and steal as well as the part that wants to be honest and upfront. Integrity requires awareness and mindfulness.
What you're describing in your comment is on the psychopathy spectrum, which in and of itself is not necessarily a bad thing. However, this is not the end-all, be-all of human consciousness, and there is a lot more room to grow from there.
- avindroth 10y agoSorry about the confusion. I can understand it, given my ill-defined and haphazard writing. I do define "What people want" differently than most. Most often giving people what they really need at the right time pays off in the long run. That is the approach I endorse. I think what you describe as integrity is what I endorse as well: master of all principles. Both lying and honesty are part of the toolkit. I would add one more to integrity, and that is empathy. You need to know how to see things from the other person's perspective in order to give others what they need.
- hosh 10y agoHuh, interesting. All of what you said here is what I agree to, other than labeling. One of the weird practices I have done is something called Demon Feeding. It descended from the Tibetan traditions, so it still carries it's shamanic/magical/tantric roots, but in this form, it was rebased in Western roots. Each section is an amazing practice on it's own, and the first three sections sharpen discriminating awareness and empathy. Over time, practitioners not only learn to distinguish wants from needs, they also learn to dig for the need under the want. The practice does not stop there. After ascertaining the need, the practitioner than finds out what would be felt after fulfilling that need. That resulting feeling is what someone is searching for. The practice is usually done with the self first, and over mant iterations, you start getting towards the ground. Dig deep enough and across enough iteration, the answer to "how will you feel if you get what you need" will tend to converge on one answer.