5 ms·
There are some other foundational things needed for living a full life (which I infer is the author's point). > "Jack, you shouldn't play Overwatch..." This i
by kross 10y ago
There are some other foundational things needed for living a full life (which I infer is the author's point).
> "Jack, you shouldn't play Overwatch..."
This is judgement, which implies ego. The indicator here is "shouldn't". Ego isn't an authentic representation of self, it is fiction. If we can become aware of ego and avoid following it's incessant needs, we are closer to ego-lessness which can contribute significantly to happiness.
So in the end, being authentic and transparent without ego, the original statement may be something like:
> "Jack, I don't like to play overwatch, I would rather (do x,y,z)"
Great book for anyone seeking - Eckhardt Tolle - "A new earth" - be warned, skip chapter 1!
- r00fus 10y agoThe key word is "should" aka "shoulding yourself/someone else" aka "musterbation" [1]. When you detect this from yourself or others, you are best advised to steer the wording/conversation so it's factual and not a guilt-trip. If you cannot, you will find yourself in a very frustrating place. http://daphne.palomar.edu/jtagg/should.htm http://daphne.palomar.edu/jtagg/should.htm
- avindroth 10y agoGreat point. There must be another level of authenticity and transparency I missed. Thanks for the book recommendation! I loved The Power of Now.