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I don't think I really get how to have relationships. It seems a lot of developers fail bad at relationships. I see beauty in math and algorithms. I'm sick of

by gersh 10y ago

I don't think I really get how to have relationships. It seems a lot of developers fail bad at relationships. I see beauty in math and algorithms. I'm sick of people, who just see such things only in dollar terms. However, I think there is a greater cultural attack on technological professionals. I feel like we are devalued as some sort of machine that cranks out code. Many play into this as well. I don't think it is healthy.

dasboth 10y ago
I see beauty in math and algorithms. I'm sick of people, who just see such things only in dollar terms. Try seeking out people who also see beauty in maths and algorithms and you might have a better experience. Finding people who have similar values to you goes a long way in having good relationships (as long as you don't entirely limit yourself to like-minded people).
munificent 10y ago
> I'm sick of people, who just see such things only in dollar terms. This statement is more accurate if you remove the comma. What you wrote makes a blanket claim about all people (which is highly unlikely to be true for even a majority). Without the comma, it's a useful heuristic for what kinds of people you should avoid so that you can have a more fulfilling circle of friends.
TheCowboy 10y ago
There is some evidence that developers are better at relationships. When it comes to marriage they have a relatively low divorce rate of around 10%. It can be partly confirmation bias that the worse relationship outcomes are most obvious to us. There is nothing wrong with seeing beauty in math and algorithms, because it's certainly there. But taken too far, it can become self-validating by judging other people as lacking value, and refusing to see beauty in other people with different interests. This might be part of what you view as an attack on technological professionals, where we're stereotyped as people with only an interest in computers/math and have no interest in actual people.

by gersh 10y ago

dasboth 10y ago

I see beauty in math and algorithms. I'm sick of people, who just see such things only in dollar terms. Try seeking out people who also see beauty in maths and algorithms and you might have a better experience. Finding people who have similar values to you goes a long way in having good relationships (as long as you don't entirely limit yourself to like-minded people).

munificent 10y ago

> I'm sick of people, who just see such things only in dollar terms. This statement is more accurate if you remove the comma. What you wrote makes a blanket claim about all people (which is highly unlikely to be true for even a majority). Without the comma, it's a useful heuristic for what kinds of people you should avoid so that you can have a more fulfilling circle of friends.

TheCowboy 10y ago

There is some evidence that developers are better at relationships. When it comes to marriage they have a relatively low divorce rate of around 10%. It can be partly confirmation bias that the worse relationship outcomes are most obvious to us. There is nothing wrong with seeing beauty in math and algorithms, because it's certainly there. But taken too far, it can become self-validating by judging other people as lacking value, and refusing to see beauty in other people with different interests. This might be part of what you view as an attack on technological professionals, where we're stereotyped as people with only an interest in computers/math and have no interest in actual people.