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Isn't this the book that starts off with the guy claiming he (or his ancestors) could transform into Jaguars? IIRC, the book was littered with falsehoods.

bluejekyll 10y ago
Native American traditions often don't distinguish between hallucinations and actual transmorphing into something else. So while it's been a few years since I read it, it wouldn't necessarily surprise me. But the four agreements are what are important: 1) always do your best 2) never make assumption 3) don't take things personally 4) be impeccable with your word 2&3 were the most help to me in both work and dating.
- arviewer 10y ago
  You mixed up 1 and 4, but that's no problem. Doing your best means that you will never be 100% perfect in following up on 1, 2 and 3, so make the best of it and forgive yourself if you forget to follow them. For me 3 was very important, with many small things that annoyed me, people getting in my way etc. They don't do that to annoy me, and of course I know that, but to fully realise that was important. Be impeccable is the most important for me. This is more about shouting at yourself than about shouting at other people. Most of the time we shout - silently - at ourselves, and these little punishments that you often don't even notice, take you down and can make your life a lot more miserable. And if you shout a lot at other people, try to figure out why you need to do that. In the last five years, this was the most important book for me. Whenever I'm having troubles with someone, reading this book helps me get through it.
  - bluejekyll 10y ago
    I guess I never thought of the order as important. Like I said there are two that are the most important to me, and the others that I need less reminding of. Though, since being married and having kids, I do find being impeccable with my word a little more difficult when you're out with a friend for a drink (very rare these days) and your wife asks you when you will be home... it's very easy to say "I'm on my way" when in fact you just got your last drink and you know it's going to be 20-30 minutes before you leave, but saying that will might get you in some hot water. I definitely need to do better on that one.
    - arviewer 10y ago
      The order is not that important, but this is the order of the method. And you give a perfect example of 1 working with 4, although doing your best does not mean letting go and let this problem repeat and grow into something more annoying.
arviewer 10y ago
It's about the intent, not about scientific and factual proof. Skip the first chapter if it annoys you. You don't need to read it to profit from the rest of the book.

bluejekyll 10y ago

Native American traditions often don't distinguish between hallucinations and actual transmorphing into something else. So while it's been a few years since I read it, it wouldn't necessarily surprise me. But the four agreements are what are important: 1) always do your best 2) never make assumption 3) don't take things personally 4) be impeccable with your word 2&3 were the most help to me in both work and dating.

arviewer 10y ago
You mixed up 1 and 4, but that's no problem. Doing your best means that you will never be 100% perfect in following up on 1, 2 and 3, so make the best of it and forgive yourself if you forget to follow them. For me 3 was very important, with many small things that annoyed me, people getting in my way etc. They don't do that to annoy me, and of course I know that, but to fully realise that was important. Be impeccable is the most important for me. This is more about shouting at yourself than about shouting at other people. Most of the time we shout - silently - at ourselves, and these little punishments that you often don't even notice, take you down and can make your life a lot more miserable. And if you shout a lot at other people, try to figure out why you need to do that. In the last five years, this was the most important book for me. Whenever I'm having troubles with someone, reading this book helps me get through it.
- bluejekyll 10y ago
  I guess I never thought of the order as important. Like I said there are two that are the most important to me, and the others that I need less reminding of. Though, since being married and having kids, I do find being impeccable with my word a little more difficult when you're out with a friend for a drink (very rare these days) and your wife asks you when you will be home... it's very easy to say "I'm on my way" when in fact you just got your last drink and you know it's going to be 20-30 minutes before you leave, but saying that will might get you in some hot water. I definitely need to do better on that one.
  - arviewer 10y ago
    The order is not that important, but this is the order of the method. And you give a perfect example of 1 working with 4, although doing your best does not mean letting go and let this problem repeat and grow into something more annoying.

arviewer 10y ago

It's about the intent, not about scientific and factual proof. Skip the first chapter if it annoys you. You don't need to read it to profit from the rest of the book.