> Isn't the conventional wisdom that, even if you are able to convince your current employer to match, that you shouldn't take their offer? Most employers have

> Isn't the conventional wisdom that, even if you are able to convince your current employer to match, that you shouldn't take their offer? Most employers have already decided you're "not loyal", and as such will be looking to get rid of you. You can frame it 2 different ways: * I have an offer that if you don't beat, I'll leave * I've been considering my market value, like working here, and would like you to recognize what I add to the business. The 2nd way allows an employer to pay you more - and the employee to stay there because they didn't see themselves in the other rule.