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Yeah. I think it's a huge issue when people romanticize the hard work they have done in the past and expect the same from their children. It's one thing to say

Yeah. I think it's a huge issue when people romanticize the hard work they have done in the past and expect the same from their children. It's one thing to say "my kid should be financially literate" and another thing to say "I sweeped floors at a supermarket when I was a teenager and so should my kid." IMO our goal should be to make life better for our children, and that involves giving them opportunities and resources so that they don't have to work as hard as us, unless they absolutely have to. My dad worked through college, but paid for my college so that I could focus on my studies. I plan to do even more for my own kids in the future, maybe by paying for their grad schools as well.

rtpg 10y ago
I think what GP was trying to mention is that the cost of things like college have gone up immensely since then. The same strategies won't work now. You can't live on a minimum wage job in most places in the US, let alone live + pay for school
eggy 10y ago
You misread me. I don't expect my son or other children to work sweeping floors or otherwise. Each generation of my family has improved life for the next generation. From my Momo, grandma, coming over as a cleaning lady for New Yorkers, to my Dad driving a truck or other such job. I worked through college, but dropped out voluntarily. I think there are other opportunities to learn nowadays aside from university and graduate school unless you want to be a doctor, engineer, or lawyer. My son and daughter volunteer and work and go to school. They are both doing exceptional. My son was number one in the entire county in Chemistry this past year. I am split on whether they would be better off not working or volunteering at all. It is their choice; I didn't ask it of them. I did offer them the option of focusing solely on studies, but they like what they do. What can I say? I have friends whose kids are given whatever they please. These are not friends who grew up where or how I did. Their kids are having all sorts of serious adaptation issues. I think it is due to having too much time and no responsibility. I work hard at my art and job, no romanticizing here. The drunk writer, or coder who just wings it, are stereotypes. The real achievers work their ass off. I know from being a manager of hundreds, and including myself, that busy people seem to get more work done. I am not talking about the culture of no sleep, 75 hours per week. I am talking about having 30 hours of real work per week in a 40 hour week, and not 10 hours and making up for the deficit in a 75 hour week, which seems common in some companies.

rtpg 10y ago

I think what GP was trying to mention is that the cost of things like college have gone up immensely since then. The same strategies won't work now. You can't live on a minimum wage job in most places in the US, let alone live + pay for school

eggy 10y ago

You misread me. I don't expect my son or other children to work sweeping floors or otherwise. Each generation of my family has improved life for the next generation. From my Momo, grandma, coming over as a cleaning lady for New Yorkers, to my Dad driving a truck or other such job. I worked through college, but dropped out voluntarily. I think there are other opportunities to learn nowadays aside from university and graduate school unless you want to be a doctor, engineer, or lawyer. My son and daughter volunteer and work and go to school. They are both doing exceptional. My son was number one in the entire county in Chemistry this past year. I am split on whether they would be better off not working or volunteering at all. It is their choice; I didn't ask it of them. I did offer them the option of focusing solely on studies, but they like what they do. What can I say? I have friends whose kids are given whatever they please. These are not friends who grew up where or how I did. Their kids are having all sorts of serious adaptation issues. I think it is due to having too much time and no responsibility. I work hard at my art and job, no romanticizing here. The drunk writer, or coder who just wings it, are stereotypes. The real achievers work their ass off. I know from being a manager of hundreds, and including myself, that busy people seem to get more work done. I am not talking about the culture of no sleep, 75 hours per week. I am talking about having 30 hours of real work per week in a 40 hour week, and not 10 hours and making up for the deficit in a 75 hour week, which seems common in some companies.