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Fair enough, especially this bit: > Simply demilitarizing disagreement can go a long way toward reducing the kinds of friction that prevent people from learnin
by brhsiao 10y ago
Fair enough, especially this bit:
> Simply demilitarizing disagreement can go a long way toward reducing the kinds of friction that prevent people from learning and growing when they're wrong.
Here's my attempt at reconciliation. I would support all of the following: withholding hostility; understanding that understanding something is not the same as condoning it; having empathy for everyone; understanding that everyone has their own reason for how they are; and making atmospheres seem less threatening to encourage more people to come forward.
But I remain slightly suspicious of the feeling of sympathy toward the world view described in the article. Empathy, certainly. But I still say it's condescending to pity someone like that before they've taken the slightest steps toward self-correction.
- eyelidlessness 10y agoI have to admit that I was brought to tears reading her story. I don't sympathize with her opinion on abortion, I strongly disagree with it. But I felt her hardship and her candor when offered space to admit her personal motivations. I felt them despite being unmoved from my own opinions. I also have to admit that I haven't always been self aware enough to make healthy corrections for my own beliefs and attitudes. 100% of those times, I've grown more with the support of people who showed care and compassion despite the flaws in my reaction to the world I find myself in. I have to constantly remind myself that we're all in a wilderness. Nothing of importance comes easy to everyone. Nearly every person can grow, given the right conditions. And working toward making those conditions available to more people is worthwhile.
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