it depends if one is set out to dominate; in this case the mode of discussion will probably be adversary. maybe understanding the motives of your peer is one o

it depends if one is set out to dominate; in this case the mode of discussion will probably be adversary. maybe understanding the motives of your peer is one of the requirements for domination (you can't dominate someone who you don't understand at all), but understanding does not imply domination. there is another problem: your peer will probably not be ready to share much of his background for fear of your motives; if you know that your words can be used against yourself, then you will not be ready to talk too much.