In poker your hand is what it is whether you realize it or not. It doesn't matter if you say 'I have two pairs of aces' because you still actually have four of

In poker your hand is what it is whether you realize it or not. It doesn't matter if you say 'I have two pairs of aces' because you still actually have four of a kind. I do the same with arguments. I try very hard to 'steel man' opposing views in total sincerity. This doesn't take any kind of kindness or humility at all, just a desire to actually be right and not delude oneself.