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>>If listening and understanding other people isn't the first step to working through these problems, nothing is. It is the first step, but it only works if th
by enraged_camel 10y ago
>>If listening and understanding other people isn't the first step to working through these problems, nothing is.
It is the first step, but it only works if the other side is also willing to take it with you. If you are the only one changing your position, it is not a mutual compromise, by definition.
- AnimalMuppet 10y agoNo. But even in the worst case, if there is no possibility of compromise and it comes to force, you are in a position to use the force with sadness rather than hatred. That's much better for you, and it's even better for the other side, especially if you win.
- woodandsteel 10y ago>you are in a position to use the force with sadness rather than hatred That's a very wise thought.
- woodandsteel 10y ago>It is the first step, but it only works if the other side is also willing to take it with you. If you are the only one changing your position, it is not a mutual compromise, by definition. That's true. However, once the other person feels well understood, they often get more interested in trying to understand your side. And then, once you and the other person side each have a better understanding of what the other wants, it may be possible to come up with some third alternative that makes both of you happy.