This. As a parent, you want to remain calm and not accidentally start giving a child a bunch of problems that he may not actually have. At the same time, it's

This. As a parent, you want to remain calm and not accidentally start giving a child a bunch of problems that he may not actually have. At the same time, it's quite useful to have somebody's opinion who's seen hundreds of different kids and can provide you with some context. So find an expert, and then go spend some time talking to them -- both with and without the kid. At the end of the day, it's your decision what to do, but it's always good to talk to somebody with a bit wider view than you might have. After all, it's basically the same thing you're doing now on HN, except this would be talking to somebody who actually specializes in these things.