Other ideas: make a deal and put it in writing. When he is calm after some incident, sit down and talk through it. Ask him what he should have done, and what

Other ideas: make a deal and put it in writing. When he is calm after some incident, sit down and talk through it. Ask him what he should have done, and what you should have done. Let him come up with the ideas. (Really! He will surprise you and come up with good ones!) Then write it down and you both sign it. Next time the same situation comes up, follow the script you agreed on and remind him he signed it. I got this one from a parenting book. I tried it one time with my kid, and now we have an agreement when she misbehaves in public I will tell her "What the heck!" and she will remember to snap out of it. It kind of works, not perfect, but it surely helped.