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In fairness every kid I know (about 6 or 7 I guess) who has been pushed up several years in school is generally either completely anti-social or officious and u
by ErrantX 17y ago
In fairness every kid I know (about 6 or 7 I guess) who has been pushed up several years in school is generally either completely anti-social or officious and unfriendly (I am being nice here unfortunately). Obviously that is not a complete metric; but all of them, I am sure, are that way due to a lack of social proof/interaction at a crucial point in their lives (early teens).
In this case Colin seems well adjusted and "not a prick" - but there could be all manner of exterior reasons for that.
It's also wrong, I think, to consider high school as training for adult social structure; it clearly is nothing like that. But it does teach you some important things - you face the same issues at the same time as everyone else (example: all of the kids I saw bumped up several levels were either incredibly sexist or had serious issues with women. Typical of the kind of insecurities you face at that age - but when everyone around you has already dealt with that it is hard to sort out).
> all of use who have been out of it for at least five years can probably name a group of people who are "still in high school", to their social and professional detriment.
Agreed; however I don't agree that a different way would have produced any different results. They are stuck there for a variety of reasons - none of them directly because of the high school culture.
- jerf 17y agoIn programming, I have found it's very useful to step back and remember why we do things. Unit tests are not intrinsically wonderful, they are a great way to accomplish certain things. If they don't accomplish those things, dump them. Just as a concrete example. If your goal is to produce a well-socialized child, keep your eyes on the prize. You describe some cases where in fact following the suggestion of leaving them in high school didn't work out; this also matches my experience. My point here is that actually you can't make a call about whether you should leave a given person in high school; in the exact same environment, one will flourish and learn a lot, the other will crash and burn and learn horribly pathological things. So, ultimately, my point is that if your goal is to have a "good child" (without getting into whatever that may mean), debating whether "children" should or should not be left in school or never accelerated or moved to college or anything is actually a waste of time, because there is no such thing as a "children" in the first place.