Absolutely this. Also I think that since it's so much easier now to get access to porn and even toys easily / privately that you don't need to go find an encou

Absolutely this. Also I think that since it's so much easier now to get access to porn and even toys easily / privately that you don't need to go find an encounter to get off, unless you actually want to be social about it. And if you want to be social, it's probably because you're thinking more long term from the outset. Less hookup, more companionship.